My ex said to me…
“Can you spend one day going to play golf with me?”
So I say,
“Maybe one day. Not yet.”
He frowns… and starts going into a frenzy of why I can’t get out of bed early one day to spend sometime learning how to enjoy the sport.
“I want my future wife to go out with me and enjoy putting in the greens with me.”
“So does that mean I expect my future companion to enjoy making earrings with me? That’s not fair is it?”
Despite so much of a difference that he was more outdoors and I was more of an indoor person, we lasted quite a long time. Until it got to a point where things didn’t work out.
Does it really matter that the person you love had the same interests that are important to you?
If so, minishorts would have to be totally in to car mods, and Jolene’s bf would have to start an earring collection of his own?
And yet, I don’t remember ridiculing the ideas and fascinations of my ex. I strongly remember I was empathetic. I did encourage him to take me out to his tennis tournaments but he didn’t really want me to be there.
Our common path prolly crossed to as much as when it came to movies, that's was as close as it got. At least it was something.
I'm sure it's fun sharing that common bond. But do you believe your other half can actually be a stimulating person who would have a 100% understanding of what you hold important without having to say a word from the start? Is that even possible?
So i asked this couple who just celebrated their 50th anniversary, the man holds on to his wife sitting bounded by Alzheimers...
"Por por, Kung Kung, to this day do you completely understand each other?"
"Oh no, she has her interests and I have mine, I just live knowing she is there for me but I have to make sure I still tell her and she still tells me what we both think and feel... even if she forgets, I'll remind her"
Some people are probably going to use this as a reason to counter me....